The following is the form used to accompany the essay on Support and Sharing.
Social Relationship Chart – PART I
First, plan to spend at least 15 minutes on this part of the exercise, so set aside time. Then, take a blank piece of paper and draw a small circle in the middle of it and label it “ME”. From this circle, draw a line out and draw another circle and label it with the name of some you trust, a friend, someone who supports you, encourages you, someone you can depend upon. Then draw another line out from the “ME” circle and label it with another person, and another. Keep the circles closest to “ME” who are the ones you most depend upon. Put circles farther away for people you know you can count on, but only selectively, once in a while.
After you have slowed down adding to your list, what have you learned about yourself? About your relationships? Are their people on the list who surprise you? Or people who you really thought would be close in but now you see they are farther out? Any changes you want to make, make them, but think out your reasons.
In your journal, write down what you have learned about yourself from this exercise. Put this form in your journal and make a date with yourself to check back in 3-6 months to do this again. See what changes you notice. Do you have more people closer to the center, or less? Why? What relationships changed and for what reasons? Were they good ones? Use this process to evaluate your support network over time, checking up on your social health.
Social Interactions and Connections
PART II Rewards and Demands
This form examines the rewards and demands upon your relationship.
| The major social connections in my life are: | ||
|---|---|---|
| 1. | 3. | 5. |
| 2. | 4. | 6. |
| What are the demands on this relationship? | ||
| From them? | From me? | From others? |
| What are the rewards of this relationship? | ||
| From them? | From me? | From others? |
Social Interactions and
Connections Needs – PART III
This form looks at where your sources of personal social needs come from. This form should take at least 20 minutes to complete, using the essay from the essay on Support and Sharing.
| My Personal Social Needs | To Whom To I Look For These? | How Successfully Does This Person Fulfil This Need? (use Percentages) | Who Else Could Potentially Fulfill This Need? |
|---|---|---|---|
| Listening | |||
| Emotional Support | |||
| Emotional Challenge | |||
| Technical Support | |||
| Play |
| The major social connections in my life are: | |
|---|---|
| 1. | 4. |
| 2. | 5. |
| 3. | 6. |
| What are the demands on this relationship? | |
| From them? | From me? |
| What are the rewards of this relationship? | |
| From them? | From me? |
The Life Makeovers year long project has completed in Tel Aviv with Lorelle VanFossen and Ruth Alfi, but you can get involved or start your own group through the author of the book, Life Makeovers, Cheryl Richardson.